** I came upon this interesting article at ScAm last week. The question is, how do we teach our kids self-control while we, as parents, tend to lose it during encounters of temptations? **
Self-control - the ability to regulate our attention, emotions and behaviors-emerges in childhood and grows throughout life, but the skill varies widely among individuals. Past studies have reported that self-control are more likely to be unemployed, engage in unhealthy behaviors such as overeating, and live a shorter life. A National Academy of Sciences USA tying childhood self-control to health and well-being in adulthood suggests that everyone, not just those most lacking the skill, would benefit from a self-control boost.
Psychologist Terrie E. Moffitt of Duke University and her team focused on the self-control of a group of 1,037 children born in 1972 and 1973 in Dunedin, New Zealand. The investigators observed the children and took reports from parents ad teachers every two years from the ages of three to 11. They evaluated the kids’ attention, persistence and impulsiveness in a variety of settings to determine each child’s level of self-control. Finally, when these New Zealanders reached the age of 32, the researcher assessed their health, financial stability and court records.
The study found that children with lower self-control were more likely as adults to have poor health, be single parents, depend on drugs on alcohol, have difficulties with money and possess a criminal record.
In addition to surveying and ruling out intelligence and socioeconomic status as possible explanations, the team explored whether differences in upbringing could play a role. To test this idea, the Duke researchers turned into 509 pairs of British twins born in 1994 and 1995. The team appraised the twins’ self-control at age five. The sibling who had less self-control was more likely to begin smoking, behave badly and struggle in school at age 12.
Moffit notes that within the Dunedin group, the more self-control a child had, the better of he or she was as an adult.”Even children who are above average on self-control could have improved life outcomes if they increase their self-control skills,” Moffitt says. Programs that teach self-control-in school settings, for example-are effective. Thus the Duke team posits, intervening during childhood could give all kids a better future.
By Aimee Cunningham, Scientific American Mind